Bullies and Expulsions: More Idiocy

Bullies and Expulsions: More Idiocy

Every night my family sits down at the table to have dinner together. The TV goes off and the cell phones are put down. Video games are turned off and toys are put away. This is our time to sit down and just be a family. Interesting things can come out at the table. I always start the conversation by having T tell us about her day at school. Recently she has been dealing with a bully who is mean to everyone and threatening to punch her and her friends when out on recess. Let me start by saying I hate bullies but I also know that they are a part of life no matter how old you are.

Now a days I hate bullies even more due to some of the strict policies that schools have implemented to help protect our children from each other. I know how my daughter should deal with the bully but I’m afraid that the advice I have for her might not work out in her best interest. I’m scared that she will end up being the one facing consequences if she stands up for herself and she’s worried about it too. Normally I would tell her to stand up for herself and put that bully in their place but instead I have to tell her to suck it up and brush it off.

I hate that my daughter can’t tell the bully to shove it and go bother someone who cares. T has no problem standing up for herself and saying just that and when given the opportunity to do so outside of school it works just fine for her. But now we have to worry about the tables being turned on her and T coming out to look like the bully. Punishment for bullying at school can result in suspension and expulsion. Oh and then, God forbid, if the child she is protesting against be a different race than her, it turns into a racial issue, I’m sorry but WTF?

All she can do is tattle and she HATES that because even though they have these strict rules in place regarding bullies and school violence (including threats) no one wants to do anything or push it unless they have to and if T mouths off to this bully, things could get heated.  T isn’t afraid of that but the fact that she has done as asked and told on this girl and nothing has been done I’m getting closer to taking the gloves off my daughter’s hands. What would you do? I’m tired of calling the school and showing up, demanding to speak with the principal just to be told it will be handled but they can’t tell me any more to protect the other child. What do they think I’m going to do? Show up at the kid’s house and beat them up myself? Please! If anyone needs to grow up and take off their rose colored glasses it’s my daughter’s school district.